Parent visits are essential in foster care, as they help maintain relationships, foster learning and facilitate healing and recovery. However, these visits can be challenging for foster children, sometimes feeling like a second separation. Some may even be reluctant to attend. As a foster parent, it is important to support these children before, during and after their visits.
- Preparation: Before the visit, take a moment to help your child mentally adjust by reminding them of the familiar faces they will encounter, such as their parents, their siblings or any other relatives that will be part of the gathering.
- Plan Activities: Work with the child and/or parent to create fun activities that will make their visit a time to remember. Bring comfort items or favorite toys to make the experience even better.
- Stay for a few minutes: Sometimes, staying with the child for the first few minutes can help both the child and the parent feel more at ease. By spending the first few minutes with the child and their relative(s) you can provide both comfort and reassurance to yourself, the family and the child.
- Post-Visit Plans: Arrange an activity for after the visit, such as a trip to the park, library or a dinner outing. Let the child know about these plans beforehand so they have an experience to look forward to.
- Self-Awareness: Heighten your self-awareness by paying close attention to your emotional reactions and the potential interpretations of your body language. Evaluate your attitude and choose your words carefully.
Parent visits in foster care are integral to maintaining important familial connections and promoting emotional healing. By preparing them mentally, planning activities, staying present and so much more, you can help create a positive experience for the child and family.